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You know those times when you just feel so bad about yourself you want to just hide from the world? We've all been there. When that happens I feel like the guy from the picture, just want to hide in my bed as long as I can! But I have come to realize that this guilt which distances us from what we love is just a trap. Sometimes we limit ourselves from getting closer to God because we feel bad about ourselves, thinking we can actually hide from Him.
Honestly the best thing to do when we feel this way is just to let it all out in His presence, doesn't matter how horrible or stupid we think our thoughts are, we need to let it all out and be completely open and honest to our Father.
There's not a better, more liberating feeling than leaving it all at His feet! Kind of like: "Hey God, so this is what's going on right now and honestly I can't handle it anymore, please take control, help me, because if I try to take matters in my own hands I'll probably go crazy!" The conversation might go a little deeper than that or maybe it'll be even more casual, maybe what you're feeling is a lot of anger, or confusion, or maybe you just feel completely numb, the point is, no matter what it is, let it out and leave it in His hands.
"Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you'll recover your life. I'll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won't lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you'll learn to live freely and lightly." Matthew 11:28-29 The Message
You know that feeling when your friend buys a new car and suddenly you start seeing that same car everywhere?? That's exactly what happened to me. Knowing the big impact gossip has I decided to make the Gossip Cycle video, but now that I have published the video I see gossip everywhere!
If you haven't watched my gossip cycle video yet, go watch it HERE and come back to keep reading.
Now this is the thing: where I'm noticing gossiping the most is in myself. "What?! How can you admit something like that? Weren't you the one making the video??" … Yep! =) And this experience has made me more aware of how deeply woven gossip can be in our hearts. Most of the time we don't even notice!! So first lesson:
1. It takes real effort to get rid of gossip.
The first reaction we as people have to that fact is this one: "Omgosh, that is soooo true. Margaret over there needs to really shut her hole and stop talking trash about other people. Good one Freisa! Ugh I hate gossip!" Well, that's our first mistake and where the effort starts:
2. We get rid of gossip by applying this principles first and foremost to ourselves.
Do not concern yourself about that clique in your school that think they're better than the rest, or that lady from your church that prays in front of the congregation about everybody's business ("…and God please take care of Anna, because I really don't want her to get pregnant for having relations with Jeff's only son while her parents traveled to Virginia for Carol's graduation. In the name of sweet Jesus, Amen.") Focus only on yourself, of getting that twig out of your eye before your neighbors.
“And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own? How can you think of saying to your friend, ‘Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye. Mathew 7:3-5
3. 'Gossip Cycle' as a key word.
You know how I started noticing more and more about how much gossip we talk? Well I was with a group of friends talking innocently about a person we know, when suddenly my friend passes by the table looks at me and in a sing-song tune with a smirk on her face tells me "gossip cycleeee". I think I turned more red than a strawberry! From that time on, if we find ourselves talking about something that is not our business we promptly yell out "gossip cycle!" And make a joke. Which brings me to my next point:
4. Do not be too hard on yourself.
Truth is, we've all fallen in the cycle and that's expected since the world we live in pushes us to gossip. Think about it, a great part of reality shows are based on gossip, turning people against each other, forming cliques, fighting, making up... otherwise it would be 'boring'. Gossip is what we are constantly being taught, and if we don't apply these basic anti-gossip guidelines, we are gonna go down the spiral of this viscous cycle.
5. Be careful, much gossip starts out 'innocently'